Masturbating In A Relationship

by Alicia | 25 October 2021

People think masturbating is wrong in a relationship…

We’re here to change their mind!

 

Is it normal to masturbate in a relationship? Am I being a bad partner? What will they think? Are they bad in bed? I get more turned on when I masturbate – why!? Why do I hide masturbating from my partner? Does it mean we should break up? All these questions – and more – can circle around your head when thinking about masturbating whilst you’re in a relationship. You feel embarrassed, naughty and maybe even like you’re doing something really bad.

Well, the bottom line is; you shouldn’t. 

Masturbating is a normal part of a human’s life – regardless of whether that involves being in a long-term relationship or not. Most couples find that they can enjoy masturbating whilst also indulging in their sex life with their partner – there doesn’t have to be a divide. One can thrive with the other!

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Why Is Masturbation Important?

The list of reasons as to why masturbation is important, is quite simply exhaustive. We could go on and on for hours about it – so we cherry picked our favourite reasons and arguably the most important reasons for you to read! As well as mental and physical health benefits there’s bonus’ to your sex life and a healthy relationship…

 

Stress-Reliever; Many people masturbate as a quick ‘pick-me-up’ as an easy orgasm helps to relieve tension and stress within the mind and the body. Masturbation means that there isn’t much fussing around with foreplay, looking after your partner’s sexual needs and sex in general. It can be a really quick way to relieve the sexual tension in your body as well as the other tensions you may feel! Try using a vibrator for added fun, you won’t regret it… fingers get boring!

 

Learn; Masturbating really is a great way to learn about your body and what it likes sexually. For penis owners this could be learning how to control orgasms and lasting longer, or for vagina owners it could be about learning how to orgasm easier and what helps. For everyone it can be about what feels good, what doesn’t and what you’d possibly like to try with a partner. When you know what works and what doesn’t, it can improve your sex life massively! As you are no longer trying to figure it out whilst having sex but you can skip straight to what you both KNOW you love.

 

No Pestering Involved; Of course two different people want different things and need different things. This can include sexual activities also. A difference in sex-drives (which realistically is in every relationship), can be a huge strain on the relationship. Masturbation helps here, as it allows the person who is sexually-active in the moment to not pester the other, and instead see to themselves through masturbating – meaning that there were no pressures or disappointment and the relief of an orgasm is still there!

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How Can Masturbation Help Sex With Your Partner?

It’s no rumour that those who masturbate actually tend to have more pleasurable sex with their significant other. This could be for any of the following reasons, or maybe some different ones!

 

In-Touch; Those who masturbate more frequently are in-touch with their body (as mentioned above) and thus are more likely to have a higher sex-drive with wanting to be more sexually active. It’s a common myth that over-masturbating can turn-off your sex drive – this isn’t true! Masturbating actually helps you keep in touch with your body and mind, as well as releasing different hormones and chemicals which will help boost your sexual activeness with your partner. You could encourage them to do the same, or introduce them to some new techniques you’ve found whilst masturbating!

 

Sex-Drives Differ; As we’ve mentioned before, it’s no secret that sex drives differ between people. You and your partner might even notice this, as usually there’s someone who’s a lot more horny than the other! This isn’t a bad thing, not at all. However, it can bring about some problems along the way. Masturbation is a great way to relieve yourself of the sexual tensions and stresses as it allows you unlimited times to orgasm and pleasure yourself – without the hassle or annoyance of trying to pester your significant other. This not only helps to keep harmony between yourselves but it also allows each to stick to their preferences!


Lots of people are embarrassed or ashamed to masturbate when they’re with a partner and they simply shouldn’t be. It’s crucial of course that you communicate with your partner and explain to them why you masturbate – maybe even show them this blog. 

It’s a great way to allow your body the freedom it needs whilst respecting your partner’s wishes. Not to mention the things you learn through masturbation can add to the sexual fun!

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