How to Introduce Sex Toys to Your Relationship

The ultimate guide on how to bring a new element to your love life

by Tobias | 29 March 2021

Sex lives can often become repetitive, routine, samey. It is not uncommon for people to stop looking forward to moments of intimacy. Mainly because they feel they already know the outcome.

First this, then that, finish with a touch of that. Until next time.

People finding themselves underwhelmed by their sexual experiences and long for more. There are though, a few simple changes that can revitalise these all important moments and bring a sense of adventure to the encounters. 

It’s widely reported that sex toys have a hugely positive impact on relationships, friendships and even solo activity. Why is it then, that so many people shy away from introducing sex toys into their love lives with a partner? Often, they are embarrassed to bring up the subject as their partner may not be completely on the same wavelength. 

We wrote this article to give a little insight into why you should introduce toys to your partner and tips on how best to get the balls rolling. Many try it, few regret it.

Whispering in partner's ear

Introducing a New Element to your Sex Life

Starting the conversation

First of all, we recognise that not everyone is as radically open-minded as us. Though many will be more than happy to explore new horizons, some need time to acclimatise.

It’s common that people need time to familiarise themselves with the unknown. It is important to keep this in mind when having conversations about sex toys. They’re great, but not everybody knows that yet.

Considering this, don’t force the idea on your partner. Or criticise them for opposing your desires. This could all be completely new to them and they need to be comfortable doing all of the things that you dream up together.

Sex is all about fun. Being uncomfortable, is not fun.

Timing is everything. If we know that some people are slightly uncomfortable with the topic to begin with, we don’t want to spring it on them. Bringing out a sex toy during intercourse or foreplay is not recommended. Perhaps on the lead up to one of these moments, it could be a suggestion.

Better yet, introduce the idea during your everyday conversations. Sex, sex positions and sex toys should be a common topic of conversation between partners, so there’s no reason it can’t be discussed over eggs and soldiers.

Explore the possibilities together

What better way to design the perfect sexual experience than with those that are going to be enjoying it with you. Before going ahead with any wild and wonderful ideas, take the time to sit down and do your research into what will best suit the encounter your dreaming of.

This can help put your and your partners mind at ease. Without completely stepping into the unknown, doing research like this can give insight into what to expect when utilising certain toys together. Not only that, it can also relieve some of the pressure of using toys for the first time. You’re not an expert until you become an expert.

There was a time when Beyonce sang for the first time, now look at her.

As you will find on our own shop, there are thousands of sex toys to chose from. Though we may categorise them to make them easier to shop, the vast majority can be incorporated into your couples play. (Or threesome and so on of course!)

Be it a cock rings, clitoral stimulator or anything else in our store, it can probably be used to increase intimacy during sex and foreplay without it being a solo mission.

It is all about preference and practice. How will you know if you don’t try?

Couple preparing to use sex toys

Have fun

As always, don’t take it all too seriously. As human beings, we are one of very few species on Earth that have sex purely for pleasure. For that reason alone, we urge you to try to make the most of every moment. And have fun while you do it.

Not every idea that you bring to the bedroom will work out. Trial and error comes to mind. All things considered, if we want to make our sex lives better we have to find out exactly what it is that we enjoy. And what we would rather participate in as a one off.

This article in Psychology Today found that “Generally speaking, couples who can explore novel ways of being intimate — including trying out one or more sex toys — tend to fare better in terms of maintaining passion and desire”. Who doesn’t want that?